Friday, July 30, 2004
"With heroin I couldn’t leave the room. I’d take the phone off the hook and it would just be me and the TV... With alcohol, I could be very gregarious. I thought I’d woken up and come back to life. And in a way I had. But it was a weird life and eventually it led back to the same place... I needed a total internal collapse before I could stop... That moment they call 'the grace of despair'. It came and in a flash of clarity I saw I was going to die. I didn’t want to die, so I picked up a phone and asked for help... That’s when I grabbed on to the notion of one day at a time and that’s been my programme ever since. Sixteen years of one day at a time."
- Eric Clapton, 'Scotsman.com'
Two fellows were chatting over coffee after an AA meeting. One of them was sharing about his newest resentment. "Someone told me that indecision is a stumbling block in my recovery. He should look at himself instead of accusing me of being indecisive. I can make up my mind just fine! In fact, I have a good mind to..." The other fellow interrupted him, "Whenever I get upset I talk it over with my sponsor." The fellow replied: "I would if I had one, but I can't decide who I want as a sponsor."
New Recovery Site
"An Open and Frank Discussion About Substance Abuse, Substance Treatment, Recovery, Rehab and Support":
Substance Abuse Treatment Forum
Other links added this week:
NA AA Recovery Zone
Have you ever wondered why it is
that you cannot stop drinking?
There Is A Solution
Recovery: Daily Spiritual Quote
Read a new one every day
Have A Look Into Our Past:
Two pages of AA facts and questions
AA History & Trivia
Thursday, July 29, 2004
"Most of the trouble in Barnet flows from my pub... The bottom line is drink. We have been running a promotion known within the company as Project Primate... a happy hour and I'm not happy to be running it... I said 'you are attracting people who want a cheap and nasty night out'... I've been through serious amounts of trouble with the yobs. I was glassed once. I've had stools and ashtrays thrown at me. It can start if we ask people to leave, they start giving staff abuse. It's fearful for me. I've barred 50 to 100 people since I've been here. I look 20 yards to the left and to the right before I walk out onto the high street now."
- Michael Colton, 'Hendon & Finchley Times, UK'
Wednesday, July 28, 2004
A drunk's wife was still mad at him for his most recent binge. He thought that surprising her with a good meal might help. That's when he had an idea! Knowing that she was fond of both potatoes and rice, he thought he'd be creative and give her the best of both starches. As he watched her sample the new dish at supper he explained, "I carefully cut the potatoes into tiny rice-size pieces before cooking them. The chopping alone took me an hour! I didn't have a chance to try it myself, what do you think?" She replied: "Interesting -- mashed potatoes made the hard way."
"Our mission is to help recovering people make informed decisions about how they will understand and practice their recovery program. To this end, we aim to provide our readers with articles and texts of importance to the development of the Twelve Steps, as well as detailed analysis of particular approaches to Stepwork":
In The Beginning: The story of the history
of AA begins way before its actual founding:
I Don't Care What The Fellowship Says:
'But I do care what the literature says'
Sponsor To Sponsor
Tuesday, July 27, 2004
"It took a great deal of acceptance to come to terms with being an alcoholic but acceptance was the key to my sobriety... If I didn't have acceptance at that time in my life I would not be standing here today."
- Dennis Eckersley, 'TimesUnion.com'
"This is a collection of weblogs created by people in recovery. The site was created by Martin whose blog features over a year of entries - the highs and the lows! He was recently joined by a new blogger, Namenlosen Trinker." Click on the link or screenshot to visit:
Monday, July 26, 2004
"When people say that alcoholism is a disease, they're not just assigning a word to a lifestyle choice. Alcoholism in its most ravaging form is not a failure of character or of family values -- please understand that. It is a progressive disease that affects the whole family."
- Amy Dickinson, 'Newsday.com'
"Ponder One Sentence, One Day at a Time! Signup to receive daily meditations... One sentence per day from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous (Third Edition) via email." Click the link or screenshot to visit Ponder This:
Friday, July 23, 2004
"One of the things which intrigues me is that they have found that those who reach abstinence can go for 20 years and still go back to drinking, but those who have reached the joy of sobriety rarely ever go back."
- Fred Smith, 'saWorship.com'
An alcoholic was new to recovery and was enjoying being free of booze. What he didn't like was the fact that his sponsor believed he could tell whenever the fellow was lying. It bothered him so much he decided to prove him wrong. So he phoned him up and just as always, the first thing his sponsor said was, "What's on your mind?" Here was his chance! Although his resentment was growing, the fellow replied, "Nothing's wrong! Everything's great, couldn't be better!" His sponsor responded: "What's bothering you?"
Recovery resource site: "contains stories, anecdotes, and links collected from many friends during my journey":
Sunlight Of The Spirit
links added this week:
Big Book Study Guide
Earth Group Of NA
What Happened: 'Hi, my name is Jerry and I'm an alcoholic'
The Higher Power Concept: 'Narcotics Anonymous and Alcoholics Anonymous... are not religious programs'
On-Line Internet Sponsorship: 'AA, NA, OA, CA, AlAnon, ACOA, CoDA and a few assorted'
Recovery Is Good For You
Anorexia & Bulimia: 'I've struggled with bulimia since I was a teen and so relate to the pain'
Geri's Recovery Music
Suicide: There Is Always Hope: Someone You Know Is Suicidal: Know the warning sisns and what to do
SAVE Suicide Awareness
Thursday, July 22, 2004
"Seba's mother had finally had enough and she left me. I went on a drinking and drugging spree... And there I was, asking myself the same question I had been asking myself my whole life: 'Why do I keep doing this?' My alcoholism took me to the bottom. It wasn't social. It wasn't moderate. I was a real alcoholic."
- Dan Horton, 'Louisville Courier Journal'
A Day In The Life Of A Sponsor
Shut Up: 'I was spreading the disease not recovery'
Sponsor To Sponsor
Alcoholism -- Risk Factor for Suicide
Wednesday, July 21, 2004
"It is not enough, in fact, to have been purified: One must then walk on the right path... leaving behind vice and its dark power of attraction... it leads to the enjoyment of that peace that flows from being delivered and forgiven."
- Pope John Paul II, 'Zenit News Agency'
A lady was entertaining some Al-Anon friends with tea at her house after a meeting. One of the members was getting acquainted with the household pooch, "What a cute dog, what's his name?" The lady replied, "Oh, that's Butch, but I call him my little tornado warning." Everyone was intrigued. "Are you saying your dog can actually tell when there's a storm coming?" The hostess replied: "Pretty much -- he barks whenever my husband's waking up after drinking the night before."
"This site is to help you find methods of recovery from addiction to drugs and alcohol which are best suited to your needs. It contains links to 12-step programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous and to 'alternative' programs like Rational Recovery. Recovery Net is also helpful in finding discussion groups, therapists, and treatment facilities":
The Twelve Steps Revised Edition
Spiritual Pardon: Taking Forgiveness Deeper
Journey with Spirit
Tuesday, July 20, 2004
"Drink is a social thing... When I was in my dressing room in Dallas, people used to come by for a glass of champagne and tell me their problems. I'd begin drinking with a champagne and orange juice for breakfast, then continue throughout the day, drinking five bottles... When I got home at night I'd have a couple of vodkas, then wine with dinner... I think I drank because I was bored... A lot of acting can get very boring. It can take two hours to shoot a one-minute piece of film and each time you shoot it, you have to keep up the same level of energy... You get to a point where you think that if you don't have a drink you can't do it... I'd still be drinking today if the doctors hadn't highlighted a problem."
- Larry Hagman, 'Daily Mail'
Monday, July 19, 2004
"I had drugs and alcohol, I had a TV, and anything outside was too much for me to handle... I called my parents, crying, 'I’m going to kill myself!' My parents sent me a huge bouquet of tulips and said, 'Stop being neurotic. You’re going to Hawaii soon with us and you’ll have a nice vacation...' They’re loving, wonderful people... They just didn’t get it."
- Lindsay, 'Jewish.com'
A Study Guide to the Big Book, 'Alcoholics Anonymous'. You are invited to download and print a copy in either Adobe PDF or MS Word .doc format. Or, to preview it or just read in in your browser, click on 'Read The Guide Online':
Big Book Study Guide
Friday, July 16, 2004
A drunk who was never a believin' man, decided to confess his guilt to a priest just in case. "Father, when I was desperate for booze money, I went to one of your church services and stole from the collection plate." The priest wasn't too surprised, "Don't worry about that, we all receive forgiveness when we find God..." The drunk interrupted him: "Wait a minute, Padre, I swear I only stole some money -- I hope you find God soon but I didn't take him."
From their main page: "Find 12-Step meetings, sober living, sober clubs, conferences, events, roundups, treatment centers, central offices, stories & articles of recovery, books & gifts for sobriety, daily meditations and much more." Lots to explore here:
also added this week:
Community: Christian Recovery
Online: e-AA Group
Serenity: Peace of SongDov
NA-related: I Want Recovery
Rule #62: Recovery Man Humor
'Am I An Alcoholic?'
If you or a loved one is asking that question,
this will help you keep it simple:
There Is A Solution
Serenity Prayer Movie:
'faith means knowing that You Are Not Alone on your journey':
Journey with Spirit
Thursday, July 15, 2004
"Skid row is loud, colorful, pungent -- an explosion of humanity. Tents, cardboard boxes, makeshift beds and sprawled bodies crowd the sidewalks. Alcoholics Anonymous meetings and drug dealers share space with preachers and pickpockets. Free meals abound, but dignity and a private place to go to the bathroom are hard to find. It is a world few understand if they have not lived there."
- Jessica Garrison, 'KTLA TV'
Wednesday, July 14, 2004
"Looking back, it seems as though we were at a party for half a decade, behaving as badly as the Rolling Stones in the '70s but without the earnings, profile or exposure to justify it... We had a marvellous time, all our relationships were destroyed, we were alcoholics maintaining the Nepalese economy in hash consumption... I think it might be something about people choosing these roles for me –- I don't know what, it makes you think doesn't it?"
- Richard Piper of the 70's band Bouncing Czecks, 'The Australian'
This is a beautifully put together site! The overall feeling is so serene. It's the little things -- for example, click on 'The 12 Steps' or 'The Promises' to see them displayed with some tasteful graphic work:
Peace of SongDov
Tuesday, July 13, 2004
"I didn't realise I'd taken heroin. I was just handed something, smoked it, then found out what it was. It didn't do anything for me, which was lucky because I wouldn’t have fancied heading down that road. I suppose I learnt from an early age to do things in moderation. My dad always used to say 'Don’t overdo things ... don’t be an alcoholic.' That always stuck with me."
- Paul McCartney, 'Uncut Magazine'
The e-AA Group of Alcoholics Anonymous: 'we are not a glum lot'. There's a 'Get Help Now' page, or clicking on one of the tabs at the top (I like 'Stories and More') brings up a menu of buttons that helps you get to know a little more about these folks:
e-AA Group Online
Leaving The City Of Regret
'I live on I Can Do It street':
'the difference between burdens':
Monday, July 12, 2004
A woman ran into an old friend she hadn't seen for years. Her friend asked, "How's that husband of yours? Is he still just a big drunk?" The woman was offended: "That's really not fair! He's working on his weight problem so you shouldn't call him big."
"A coalition of ministries dedicated to helping the Christian community become a safe and helpful place for people recovering from addiction, abuse or trauma":
"We hope you find the Recovery Man Humor Asylum to be a safe and supportive place to take in small doses of satire, humor and other things that will help you not take yourself so seriously":
Recovery Man Humor
Recovered Not Cured
'We have recovered, and have been given the power to help others':
There Is A Solution
Alcohol and Drug Use Disorders, Sexually Transmitted Diseases, and Other Infectious Diseases -- View 1-minute trailer (bottom of page) or see the 1-hour webcast:
Sacred Versus Secular
Journey with Spirit
Friday, July 09, 2004
"There's the issue of alcohol.. and the issue of not being able to climb out of a hole. That's a story that touches a lot of people and the lives of a lot of families.. I would say that in North America probably millions of families deal with alcohol. It's not the uniqueness of the story that I was trying to tell. It's more the commonality of the story that makes it valuable."
- Ryan Larkin, 'The Globe and Mail'
A drunk was visiting his girlfiend in the hospital who was recuperrating from minor surgery. "How do you feel today?" She smiled back, "It only hurts when I laugh!" The drunk liked that, "At least you're in a good mood! You know, I've had time to think about you wanting me to go to AA and get some help. But I can stop anytime, I'm not that addicted to it! And I can change my lying and cheating ways..." His girlfriend interrupted him: "Show some mercy, I told you it hurts when I laugh."
Hello, my name is Marta and I am an alcoholic
My Gratitude Speaks
AA & Alcoholism Factoids
When The Chair Person Doesn’t Call On You
Sponsor to Sponsor
Thursday, July 08, 2004
"I was so bitter and jaded and cynical at the end of the MC5 (60's rock band) that I lost my way. And it was a long walk into the woods and out of the woods.. It's only through some greater power than Wayne Kramer that I managed to survive. Why Rob Tyner and Fred Smith are six feet under and I'm not, I don't know, because I'd done more drugs and booze than both of them. But I got help. Today, I have a full and good life."
- Wayne Kramer, 'The Globe and Mail'
Wednesday, July 07, 2004
People can be charitable when it's their choice.. If anybody understands what it's like to be homeless, I think I can speak on that.. I'd find a nice-looking house and look in its windows and watch families having fun together.. It used to kill me, looking in those windows.. I felt very isolated and ostracized and horrible.. You realize you're not part of a community, and it hurts. It humiliates you on a spiritual level.. You're so disconnected, so far removed, the farther you go, the more disconnected you get because the more homeless you look..."
- LeSan Riedmann, 'The Seattle Times'
A recovering alcoholic's wife often accused him of becoming a real penny pincher ever since he sobered up. When one of his sponsees was approaching a year of sobriety, he took his wife with him to the local AA central office to find a recovery-related gift for the fellow. The wife showed him a subscription card to 'The Grapevine' monthly magazine. "That's a little too much," he said. "How about this CD with audio recovery stories? It's just over $10," his wife suggested. The alcoholic still squirmed, so his wife found a copy of 'The Best of Bill' priced at $8. The fellow piped up, "Can't you ever choose something cheap?" His wife shot back: "I married you, didn't I?"
This 'group of alcoholics from South Essex / East London' have a site with lots of recovery resources for you. Categories include The problem, The solution, Recovered from alcoholism, Not cured, and even a Forum:
There Is A Solution
John D's site features AA Words of Wisdom, Clean Time Calculator and free Serenity Prayer wall-paper for your computer. His Gallery is a real treat -- click on the graphic images to enlarge them:
UK John D's
Tuesday, July 06, 2004
"People disqualify alcoholics sometimes and that's not fair. It's not something you ask for. It's not something you get a kick out of. It's something that can kill you. It can steal the life right out from under you... You don't know it's a disease. You don't know you have it. So you just suddenly feel better than you ever felt, and you just go along until it's running you, you're not running it."
- Liza Minnelli, 'The New York Post'
Monday, July 05, 2004
Wishing all Americans a sober and festive
Independence Day Long Weekend!
new daily posts return Tuesday, July 6th
If you are still suffering because of your own or a loved one's alcoholism or other addiction, you are not alone... the links section on the right is full of sites that can help put you in touch with people who have been where you are, and would love to help!
Posted by dryblog at Monday, July 05, 2004
Friday, July 02, 2004
"I really didn't think I had a drinking problem because I never drank during the day, I just drank when the day was over... the only difference being that where most people have three beers, I would want three hundred... But once I was educated about it, I realized I was an alcoholic. So I got help... It only becomes a struggle when you don't treat it like it's serious... If you have a kidney problem and need dialysis four times a week, you're going to go. Well, alcoholism is just as deadly as that, but it's patient and it can sneak up on you. So I take this very seriously, and I know I'm always vulnerable... There's no question what happened has become a positive for me... I'm human. I made mistakes. But I've moved on from that. I'm a different guy now, somebody who looks at things really, really differently. And I'll be a better coach, a better father, and just better in every aspect of life because I'm better now than I ever was before."
- Larry Eustachy, 'Vero Beach Press-Journal'
Nancy: "They're not gonna send us any money! They said we'd spend it all on drugs."
Sid: "We would!"
Nancy: "... I hate my life."
Sid: "This is just a rough patch. Things will be much better when we get to America."
Nancy: "We're in America, we've been here a week! New York is in America..."
- From the film, 'Sid and Nancy'
new link: Miracles in Progress offers online meetings, bulletin boards, and online resources for AA and Al-Anon recovery, as well as lots of services for a wide range of addiction recovery and other issues:
Miracles In Progress
new site: Sweet Sobriety was added to dryblog links a few weeks back while still under construction. It's obvious April has put some real TLC into the site because it really shows! They have lots to offer -- several recovery stories (one even in video format), as well as discussion forums, chat and links. You might want to stop by and welcome this new member of the online recovery community: